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		<title>By: The nitty-gritty: cultural and disability competence in health care &#171; Urocyon&#39;s Meanderings</title>
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		<dc:creator>The nitty-gritty: cultural and disability competence in health care &#171; Urocyon&#39;s Meanderings</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 03 Mar 2010 17:52:37 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] Sometimes a client just stops coming to see you; they may not be available on the phone when your office tries to call, or they may say that they will call back to book an appointment. They won&#8217;t. There&#8217;s just no helping some people, and do they even deserve it? [...]</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>[...] Sometimes a client just stops coming to see you; they may not be available on the phone when your office tries to call, or they may say that they will call back to book an appointment. They won&#8217;t. There&#8217;s just no helping some people, and do they even deserve it? [...]</p>
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		<title>By: Learning from animals: communication and compassion &#171; Urocyon&#39;s Meanderings</title>
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		<dc:creator>Learning from animals: communication and compassion &#171; Urocyon&#39;s Meanderings</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 16 Jan 2010 18:39:49 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] Near the extreme end, it can lead to this kind of attitude: Empathy: not your strong suit. [...]</description>
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		<title>By: megaforte84</title>
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		<dc:creator>megaforte84</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 27 Nov 2009 18:23:54 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I know of at least one situation where complying is &#039;non-compliance&#039;.

There are some health professionals who think anyone who went off ADD meds after age 18 is non-compliant. Even if the medical professionals involved in that person&#039;s life would not recommend or, more importantly, &lt;i&gt;prescribe&lt;/i&gt; the medication anymore.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I know of at least one situation where complying is &#8216;non-compliance&#8217;.</p>
<p>There are some health professionals who think anyone who went off ADD meds after age 18 is non-compliant. Even if the medical professionals involved in that person&#8217;s life would not recommend or, more importantly, <i>prescribe</i> the medication anymore.</p>
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		<title>By: Michelle</title>
		<link>http://www.fatnutritionist.com/index.php/empathy-not-your-strong-suit/#comment-481</link>
		<dc:creator>Michelle</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 03 Aug 2009 01:29:12 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;em&gt;We often discuss the specific comments/assumptions of her peers and how they pretty much come down to fears about mortality and how we often think “X only happens to ABC people, not me–I’m a good person, I exercise, I’m not a glutton, etc.”&lt;/em&gt;

EXACTLY. Fears about mortality, and subsequent Fundamental Errors of Attribution. 

Diseases are complex issues with often complex, multifaceted causes. It would be so nice and simple if we could just attribute them to immorality and stupidity -- our brains would like that so much better, because then we wouldn&#039;t have to grapple with ambiguous, confusing reality. And we could dispense with the inconvenience of compassion altogether. 

Unfortunately, reality is a supremely noncompliant patient who doesn&#039;t bow easily to our intellectual or moral preferences.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em>We often discuss the specific comments/assumptions of her peers and how they pretty much come down to fears about mortality and how we often think “X only happens to ABC people, not me–I’m a good person, I exercise, I’m not a glutton, etc.”</em></p>
<p>EXACTLY. Fears about mortality, and subsequent Fundamental Errors of Attribution. </p>
<p>Diseases are complex issues with often complex, multifaceted causes. It would be so nice and simple if we could just attribute them to immorality and stupidity &#8212; our brains would like that so much better, because then we wouldn&#8217;t have to grapple with ambiguous, confusing reality. And we could dispense with the inconvenience of compassion altogether. </p>
<p>Unfortunately, reality is a supremely noncompliant patient who doesn&#8217;t bow easily to our intellectual or moral preferences.</p>
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		<title>By: Thealogian</title>
		<link>http://www.fatnutritionist.com/index.php/empathy-not-your-strong-suit/#comment-471</link>
		<dc:creator>Thealogian</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 02 Aug 2009 20:41:12 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Wow, there are some really insightful comments here! 

I just wanted to chime in about a friend in Medical School who is deeply concerned about her peers ability to practice medicine ethically and effectively because of their seemingly deep-seated antagonism toward pretty much any non-perfect patient. The fatties, the smokers, the people who may have merely experimented with drugs at one point, the sexually active, the queer, etc. We often discuss the specific comments/assumptions of her peers and how they pretty much come down to fears about mortality and how we often think &quot;X only happens to ABC people, not me--I&#039;m a good person, I exercise, I&#039;m not a glutton, etc.&quot; She said that the first class in which many of her peers had to recognize that not all illness was a result of individual sin was a genetics class in which several of her peers were REALLY SURPRISED THAT &quot;NOT ALL DISEASES ARE THE PATIENTS FAULT?&quot; Its been kind of scary to learn about her jock-like, asshat med school peers. At least she&#039;s their to influence them--to say, &quot;hey, that&#039;s out of line&quot; when one of them goes on a tirade ab0ut how stupid and ignorant and non-compliant X patients are. These biases they carry around are really impacting their capacity to provide medical care. It&#039;s about the myths we tell ourselves to get to sleep at night, that we and our loved ones are safe from disease because we&#039;re &quot;good&quot; or the Christian Fundie who protests the abortion clinic but sneaks into that same clinic the day her church isn&#039;t protesting because her abortion is deserved, but every other woman&#039;s is a result of being a hussy. Yes, there are frustrating individuals one meets in the course of the professional life--my sister&#039;s a social worker, my mother a teacher, I&#039;m in non-profit; we all have encountered people whose lives would be easier if they X, Y, Z, but where they are today is a matter of a complex interaction of experiences, family life, genetics, location, education, etc. that I can&#039;t fully understand.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Wow, there are some really insightful comments here! </p>
<p>I just wanted to chime in about a friend in Medical School who is deeply concerned about her peers ability to practice medicine ethically and effectively because of their seemingly deep-seated antagonism toward pretty much any non-perfect patient. The fatties, the smokers, the people who may have merely experimented with drugs at one point, the sexually active, the queer, etc. We often discuss the specific comments/assumptions of her peers and how they pretty much come down to fears about mortality and how we often think &#8220;X only happens to ABC people, not me&#8211;I&#8217;m a good person, I exercise, I&#8217;m not a glutton, etc.&#8221; She said that the first class in which many of her peers had to recognize that not all illness was a result of individual sin was a genetics class in which several of her peers were REALLY SURPRISED THAT &#8220;NOT ALL DISEASES ARE THE PATIENTS FAULT?&#8221; Its been kind of scary to learn about her jock-like, asshat med school peers. At least she&#8217;s their to influence them&#8211;to say, &#8220;hey, that&#8217;s out of line&#8221; when one of them goes on a tirade ab0ut how stupid and ignorant and non-compliant X patients are. These biases they carry around are really impacting their capacity to provide medical care. It&#8217;s about the myths we tell ourselves to get to sleep at night, that we and our loved ones are safe from disease because we&#8217;re &#8220;good&#8221; or the Christian Fundie who protests the abortion clinic but sneaks into that same clinic the day her church isn&#8217;t protesting because her abortion is deserved, but every other woman&#8217;s is a result of being a hussy. Yes, there are frustrating individuals one meets in the course of the professional life&#8211;my sister&#8217;s a social worker, my mother a teacher, I&#8217;m in non-profit; we all have encountered people whose lives would be easier if they X, Y, Z, but where they are today is a matter of a complex interaction of experiences, family life, genetics, location, education, etc. that I can&#8217;t fully understand.</p>
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		<title>By: Michelle</title>
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		<dc:creator>Michelle</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 31 Jul 2009 02:38:08 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&quot;Be excellent to each other.&quot; 

Truly one of the great aphorisms of all time.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>&#8220;Be excellent to each other.&#8221; </p>
<p>Truly one of the great aphorisms of all time.</p>
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		<title>By: Kaethe</title>
		<link>http://www.fatnutritionist.com/index.php/empathy-not-your-strong-suit/#comment-459</link>
		<dc:creator>Kaethe</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 29 Jul 2009 19:25:11 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>What a great discussion.  Judgmental and prejudicial attitudes are extremely common among health care workers, just as they are among every other profession, and the US public at large.  Blaming the victim has become our true national pastime.  I&#039;m fortunate to have an MD who actually listens to me and discusses options for care.  But I can&#039;t count the number of doctors I&#039;ve seen in my life who treated me as if I weren&#039;t worth it.  I don&#039;t understand why anyone would be a primary care provider if they don&#039;t like people.  There&#039;s plenty of room in research after all.

&quot;First do no harm&quot; is a motto we should all adopt, regardless of our jobs.  I like it almost as much as &quot;be excellent to each other&quot;.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>What a great discussion.  Judgmental and prejudicial attitudes are extremely common among health care workers, just as they are among every other profession, and the US public at large.  Blaming the victim has become our true national pastime.  I&#8217;m fortunate to have an MD who actually listens to me and discusses options for care.  But I can&#8217;t count the number of doctors I&#8217;ve seen in my life who treated me as if I weren&#8217;t worth it.  I don&#8217;t understand why anyone would be a primary care provider if they don&#8217;t like people.  There&#8217;s plenty of room in research after all.</p>
<p>&#8220;First do no harm&#8221; is a motto we should all adopt, regardless of our jobs.  I like it almost as much as &#8220;be excellent to each other&#8221;.</p>
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		<title>By: Chartreuse</title>
		<link>http://www.fatnutritionist.com/index.php/empathy-not-your-strong-suit/#comment-454</link>
		<dc:creator>Chartreuse</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 27 Jul 2009 23:13:26 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>At my medical school we accompanied allied health providers on home visits as part of our community health course. It was a very good experience.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>At my medical school we accompanied allied health providers on home visits as part of our community health course. It was a very good experience.</p>
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		<title>By: Jenny</title>
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		<dc:creator>Jenny</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 26 Jul 2009 20:50:05 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>OK,  I think I understand you a little better now.  Thanks for the clarification.  And I agree- doctors shouldn&#039;t just wash their hands of a patient who isn&#039;t following treatment.  It&#039;s important that they find out WHY and come up with some alternatives and/or workarounds.  Of course, you&#039;re always going to have some patients who can comply, but just won&#039;t- either because they&#039;re simply obstinate or  because they think nothing bad will happen to them, and &quot;it&#039;ll turn out OK in the end.&quot;  In that case, there&#039;s just nothing you can do- you can&#039;t FORCE someone to do what&#039;s best for them.  I think that was the point the original poster was trying to make, and I can imagine that those cases must be very frustrating indeed.

Interesting topic.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>OK,  I think I understand you a little better now.  Thanks for the clarification.  And I agree- doctors shouldn&#8217;t just wash their hands of a patient who isn&#8217;t following treatment.  It&#8217;s important that they find out WHY and come up with some alternatives and/or workarounds.  Of course, you&#8217;re always going to have some patients who can comply, but just won&#8217;t- either because they&#8217;re simply obstinate or  because they think nothing bad will happen to them, and &#8220;it&#8217;ll turn out OK in the end.&#8221;  In that case, there&#8217;s just nothing you can do- you can&#8217;t FORCE someone to do what&#8217;s best for them.  I think that was the point the original poster was trying to make, and I can imagine that those cases must be very frustrating indeed.</p>
<p>Interesting topic.</p>
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		<title>By: Michelle</title>
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		<dc:creator>Michelle</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 26 Jul 2009 16:03:28 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>It is true that blaming the patient right out of the gate for noncompliance is unhelpful.

It is also true that some treatments are totally necessary in order to save a person&#039;s life. 

Not all treatments with which people find hard to comply are BAD, per se. They may be effective treatments that are implemented poorly or incompletely with regard to the patient&#039;s actual life circumstances -- like telling a very thirsty and uncomfortable renal patient to simply STOP DRINKING when they&#039;re thirsty, without offering any other ways to keep them comfortable, such as treatments for dry mouth. (However, in the case of dieting, I do believe it is a bad treatment, in that it is risky and mostly ineffective.)

These two statements (that we shouldn&#039;t blame patients for noncompliance with treatment, but that many treatments are helpful and necessary) are not irreconcilable -- I guess what I&#039;m trying to say is, if a patient is having trouble complying with something that is necessary for survival, then the onus is on the healthcare practitioner to find out WHY, and to help alter the patient&#039;s circumstances in order to make it possible for them to comply. Not to blame the patient for being bad, bad dog and wash one&#039;s hands of them.

Does that make sense?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It is true that blaming the patient right out of the gate for noncompliance is unhelpful.</p>
<p>It is also true that some treatments are totally necessary in order to save a person&#8217;s life. </p>
<p>Not all treatments with which people find hard to comply are BAD, per se. They may be effective treatments that are implemented poorly or incompletely with regard to the patient&#8217;s actual life circumstances &#8212; like telling a very thirsty and uncomfortable renal patient to simply STOP DRINKING when they&#8217;re thirsty, without offering any other ways to keep them comfortable, such as treatments for dry mouth. (However, in the case of dieting, I do believe it is a bad treatment, in that it is risky and mostly ineffective.)</p>
<p>These two statements (that we shouldn&#8217;t blame patients for noncompliance with treatment, but that many treatments are helpful and necessary) are not irreconcilable &#8212; I guess what I&#8217;m trying to say is, if a patient is having trouble complying with something that is necessary for survival, then the onus is on the healthcare practitioner to find out WHY, and to help alter the patient&#8217;s circumstances in order to make it possible for them to comply. Not to blame the patient for being bad, bad dog and wash one&#8217;s hands of them.</p>
<p>Does that make sense?</p>
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		<title>By: Jenny</title>
		<link>http://www.fatnutritionist.com/index.php/empathy-not-your-strong-suit/#comment-451</link>
		<dc:creator>Jenny</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 26 Jul 2009 14:56:12 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Michelle, I&#039;m having trouble reconciling a few of your comments.  First you said:

&quot;In my mind, the onus is on US (as healthcare practitioners) to offer good treatments. If a patient is incapable of complying with that treatment, then, in my opinion, the problem more often lies with the treatment than with the person.&quot;

And later you said:

&quot;Well, unfortunately, in the case of kidney disease, it’s true that the fluid restrictions are there for a reason. And not just to reduce the frequency of dialysis needed, but to help ensure proper electrolyte balance, as well, I believe. The latter consideration can be fatal if not heeded.&quot;

So it seems that you&#039;re saying that we can&#039;t blame the patient for non-compliance, that it&#039;s the fault of the treatments.  Then you say that sometimes these treatments are necessary and ignoring them can be fatal.  

I do understand what you&#039;re saying about a patient&#039;s life circumstances making it hard for him to take proper care of himself.  But how can you say that a treatment is bad, so lets not blame the patient for non-compliance?  As I&#039;m sure you know, medical science isn&#039;t perfect.  We do the best with what we&#039;ve got, and if there&#039;s a proven, effective treatment that many patients DO manage to stick with, how can you blame the treatment?

I&#039;m not trying to be rude or obstinate; I hope you can see why I&#039;m having a problem reconciling your 2 statements.  Thanks.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Michelle, I&#8217;m having trouble reconciling a few of your comments.  First you said:</p>
<p>&#8220;In my mind, the onus is on US (as healthcare practitioners) to offer good treatments. If a patient is incapable of complying with that treatment, then, in my opinion, the problem more often lies with the treatment than with the person.&#8221;</p>
<p>And later you said:</p>
<p>&#8220;Well, unfortunately, in the case of kidney disease, it’s true that the fluid restrictions are there for a reason. And not just to reduce the frequency of dialysis needed, but to help ensure proper electrolyte balance, as well, I believe. The latter consideration can be fatal if not heeded.&#8221;</p>
<p>So it seems that you&#8217;re saying that we can&#8217;t blame the patient for non-compliance, that it&#8217;s the fault of the treatments.  Then you say that sometimes these treatments are necessary and ignoring them can be fatal.  </p>
<p>I do understand what you&#8217;re saying about a patient&#8217;s life circumstances making it hard for him to take proper care of himself.  But how can you say that a treatment is bad, so lets not blame the patient for non-compliance?  As I&#8217;m sure you know, medical science isn&#8217;t perfect.  We do the best with what we&#8217;ve got, and if there&#8217;s a proven, effective treatment that many patients DO manage to stick with, how can you blame the treatment?</p>
<p>I&#8217;m not trying to be rude or obstinate; I hope you can see why I&#8217;m having a problem reconciling your 2 statements.  Thanks.</p>
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		<title>By: Dee</title>
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		<dc:creator>Dee</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Jul 2009 14:31:17 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I just wanted to point out that with recommended (and, unfortunately, required!) dietary changes, non-compliance could be largely a case of &quot;the doctor who cried wolf.&quot;  

Doctors are always handing out, recommending, and administering weight loss diets that either don&#039;t work or don&#039;t work permanently, and that sometimes do harm.  For example, low calorie diets can cause kidney stones and (of course) all the symptoms of starvation.  When they hand us these diets, they say things like &quot;if you don&#039;t lose 50 pounds, you&#039;ll have diabetes within five years.&quot;  The first time this happens, the patient may go on the diet, lose 50 pounds, gain it back again, and not get diabetes.  After a few times, no significant weight loss occurs.  Still no health problems.  Finally, 5, 10, or 15 years later, the patient says &quot;screw it&quot; and doesn&#039;t try the diet.  Once again, no diabetes, no weight loss, and the patient has learned that the doctor is full of shit.  If the patient is forgiving, then he or she may still trust the doctor on non-dietary matters, but there&#039;s no doubt that the doctor has lost some credibility.

Because of this, a large percentage of people have probably come to view the dietary advice they&#039;re given by doctors as bullshit, or at best, optional.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I just wanted to point out that with recommended (and, unfortunately, required!) dietary changes, non-compliance could be largely a case of &#8220;the doctor who cried wolf.&#8221;  </p>
<p>Doctors are always handing out, recommending, and administering weight loss diets that either don&#8217;t work or don&#8217;t work permanently, and that sometimes do harm.  For example, low calorie diets can cause kidney stones and (of course) all the symptoms of starvation.  When they hand us these diets, they say things like &#8220;if you don&#8217;t lose 50 pounds, you&#8217;ll have diabetes within five years.&#8221;  The first time this happens, the patient may go on the diet, lose 50 pounds, gain it back again, and not get diabetes.  After a few times, no significant weight loss occurs.  Still no health problems.  Finally, 5, 10, or 15 years later, the patient says &#8220;screw it&#8221; and doesn&#8217;t try the diet.  Once again, no diabetes, no weight loss, and the patient has learned that the doctor is full of shit.  If the patient is forgiving, then he or she may still trust the doctor on non-dietary matters, but there&#8217;s no doubt that the doctor has lost some credibility.</p>
<p>Because of this, a large percentage of people have probably come to view the dietary advice they&#8217;re given by doctors as bullshit, or at best, optional.</p>
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		<title>By: JennyRose</title>
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		<dc:creator>JennyRose</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 16 Jul 2009 18:52:38 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>It would be interesting to know what percentage are truly non compliant.  It concerns me that these people the writer mentions are getting sub-standard care.

I didn&#039;t think about this until now, but the medical provider probably considers being fat alone as non compliant.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It would be interesting to know what percentage are truly non compliant.  It concerns me that these people the writer mentions are getting sub-standard care.</p>
<p>I didn&#8217;t think about this until now, but the medical provider probably considers being fat alone as non compliant.</p>
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		<title>By: occhiblu</title>
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		<dc:creator>occhiblu</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 16 Jul 2009 18:49:41 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>And how strong is your desire to &lt;I&gt;help&lt;/I&gt; if it&#039;s really a case of &quot;My way or the highway&quot;?  That&#039;s not helping, that&#039;s being a tyrant.

I do realize that the US healthcare system (I&#039;m assuming the MetaFilter commenter is American) is set up in such a way as to penalize doctors and healthcare workers for spending a lot of time with patients, but &quot;helping&quot; implies some degree of collaboration and being supportive.  Ordering people around and then writing them off for not doing exactly what you say is working from the ego, not the heart.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>And how strong is your desire to <i>help</i> if it&#8217;s really a case of &#8220;My way or the highway&#8221;?  That&#8217;s not helping, that&#8217;s being a tyrant.</p>
<p>I do realize that the US healthcare system (I&#8217;m assuming the MetaFilter commenter is American) is set up in such a way as to penalize doctors and healthcare workers for spending a lot of time with patients, but &#8220;helping&#8221; implies some degree of collaboration and being supportive.  Ordering people around and then writing them off for not doing exactly what you say is working from the ego, not the heart.</p>
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		<title>By: Michelle</title>
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		<dc:creator>Michelle</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 16 Jul 2009 03:39:23 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>That&#039;s an excellent question, Carolyn. I&#039;m going to have to think about that.</description>
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		<title>By: Barry Atric</title>
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		<dc:creator>Barry Atric</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 16 Jul 2009 03:23:45 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Shark infested waters? Nah.

Some of what you said seems to be just a slightly different perspective but parallel to what I was trying to say, I think.  I&#039;m not so sure that you are advocating a perspective that is incompatible with what I was saying...just an ideal versus what I perceive is the reality of what people in healthcare deal with. Correct me if I&#039;m wrong.

While what you&#039;re outlining would be ideal, I think the reality is what you already acknowledged. The pressures of limited resources. Doctors...medical staff...are people, and people probably don&#039;t see their lives dedicated to just being defined by that career choice, and if they don&#039;t think that what they do will make a difference how do you compel doctors and staff to put 100% into every patient that walks through the door? The effect is what we see. Staff prioritizing their efforts on patients that give the impression that they will follow through with the instruction while writing off the ones they think are going to just waltz off and do what they want to do.

It&#039;s just not practical for them to do the extra paperwork and effort of following up with everything else they have to do if they are pretty sure the patient is just going to nod and walk away while continuing to ignore them.

It would be wonderful if we could have the system you outlined. I just think that medical staff feel they have enough paperwork and workload that it&#039;s not practical to do that and most hospitals are understaffed for what you&#039;re describing.

I also don&#039;t know how many people would have the energy or devotion to the field to give the kind of compassion for everyone that comes in through the doors. The doctor that originally referred me to the bariatric office...I think I blogged about how I went into his office, sat down, he rattled off the checklist of comorbids I was experiencing, then immediately said I&#039;d need surgery before shuffling me out of his office (I think it took about six minutes from going in to leaving)...was recently told that I had gone through with the surgery by a relative of mine that was having a followup with that doctor. He seemed surprised that I had followed his instructions all those months ago! I felt as if I was another patient herded in to see him and probably just another anonymous face that he&#039;d tell what his advice was before leaving and not coming back to see him again; I can understand that if that&#039;s what a doctor constantly encounters every day from the majority of his patients that he wouldn&#039;t bother getting invested in working with the patient.

Of course I don&#039;t work in the medical field and you do, so you&#039;d know whether my speculation is more reality or fantasy!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Shark infested waters? Nah.</p>
<p>Some of what you said seems to be just a slightly different perspective but parallel to what I was trying to say, I think.  I&#8217;m not so sure that you are advocating a perspective that is incompatible with what I was saying&#8230;just an ideal versus what I perceive is the reality of what people in healthcare deal with. Correct me if I&#8217;m wrong.</p>
<p>While what you&#8217;re outlining would be ideal, I think the reality is what you already acknowledged. The pressures of limited resources. Doctors&#8230;medical staff&#8230;are people, and people probably don&#8217;t see their lives dedicated to just being defined by that career choice, and if they don&#8217;t think that what they do will make a difference how do you compel doctors and staff to put 100% into every patient that walks through the door? The effect is what we see. Staff prioritizing their efforts on patients that give the impression that they will follow through with the instruction while writing off the ones they think are going to just waltz off and do what they want to do.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s just not practical for them to do the extra paperwork and effort of following up with everything else they have to do if they are pretty sure the patient is just going to nod and walk away while continuing to ignore them.</p>
<p>It would be wonderful if we could have the system you outlined. I just think that medical staff feel they have enough paperwork and workload that it&#8217;s not practical to do that and most hospitals are understaffed for what you&#8217;re describing.</p>
<p>I also don&#8217;t know how many people would have the energy or devotion to the field to give the kind of compassion for everyone that comes in through the doors. The doctor that originally referred me to the bariatric office&#8230;I think I blogged about how I went into his office, sat down, he rattled off the checklist of comorbids I was experiencing, then immediately said I&#8217;d need surgery before shuffling me out of his office (I think it took about six minutes from going in to leaving)&#8230;was recently told that I had gone through with the surgery by a relative of mine that was having a followup with that doctor. He seemed surprised that I had followed his instructions all those months ago! I felt as if I was another patient herded in to see him and probably just another anonymous face that he&#8217;d tell what his advice was before leaving and not coming back to see him again; I can understand that if that&#8217;s what a doctor constantly encounters every day from the majority of his patients that he wouldn&#8217;t bother getting invested in working with the patient.</p>
<p>Of course I don&#8217;t work in the medical field and you do, so you&#8217;d know whether my speculation is more reality or fantasy!</p>
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		<title>By: Carolyn</title>
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		<dc:creator>Carolyn</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 16 Jul 2009 01:46:43 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I am glad to see so much discussion but this question comes up in my mind over and over again:

&quot;at what point am I non-compliant?&quot;

If I seek a second opinion am I non-compliant with the first doctor?
If I research my treatment options and decline a specific treatment because of the risks am I non-compliant? (even if there are other treatment options available?)

At what point is the line drawn where I become an obedient and &lt;b&gt; deserving &lt;/b&gt; patient vs a willful jerk who has a death wish to satisfy my own comfort? 

And I hope this doesn&#039;t come off as snarky - because I feel this is an important issue.  I have had experience with doctors who were incompetent and had I blindly followed the treatment they had given I would be dead.  I had a doctor who prescribed a Spironalactine  to treat PCOS and within 2 hours of taking my first pill I had excruciating pain in my left elbow accompanied by a red rash that was spreading rapidly. When I called my doctor they said it was &quot;mild&quot; and would &quot;go away&quot;.  After the pain worsened I went to the ER where I was immediately treated for an allergic reaction.  The ER doctor said my kidneys were shutting down and had I continued the medication I could have died.

So - even tho the doctor &quot;thought they had the answers&quot; to how my life would be better, was I non-compliant? Ya darn well betcha I was!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I am glad to see so much discussion but this question comes up in my mind over and over again:</p>
<p>&#8220;at what point am I non-compliant?&#8221;</p>
<p>If I seek a second opinion am I non-compliant with the first doctor?<br />
If I research my treatment options and decline a specific treatment because of the risks am I non-compliant? (even if there are other treatment options available?)</p>
<p>At what point is the line drawn where I become an obedient and <b> deserving </b> patient vs a willful jerk who has a death wish to satisfy my own comfort? </p>
<p>And I hope this doesn&#8217;t come off as snarky &#8211; because I feel this is an important issue.  I have had experience with doctors who were incompetent and had I blindly followed the treatment they had given I would be dead.  I had a doctor who prescribed a Spironalactine  to treat PCOS and within 2 hours of taking my first pill I had excruciating pain in my left elbow accompanied by a red rash that was spreading rapidly. When I called my doctor they said it was &#8220;mild&#8221; and would &#8220;go away&#8221;.  After the pain worsened I went to the ER where I was immediately treated for an allergic reaction.  The ER doctor said my kidneys were shutting down and had I continued the medication I could have died.</p>
<p>So &#8211; even tho the doctor &#8220;thought they had the answers&#8221; to how my life would be better, was I non-compliant? Ya darn well betcha I was!</p>
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		<title>By: Melissa</title>
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		<dc:creator>Melissa</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 16 Jul 2009 00:59:53 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I always say to people who complain about things like this: What&#039;s wrong in your life that you are so angry about this?
To be so angry at a group of people would suggest to me that original poster really isn&#039;t happy with his life or his choice of job. 
The thing is if there wasn&#039;t illness in the world than this person wouldn&#039;t have a job.  My suggestion would be that instead of focusing and getting all upset about things you can&#039;t change (a persons personal behaviors and inability to change) or things that aren&#039;t your job (thinking about where the funding comes from) I would focus on what is your job, which is dealing with the patient in the best way possible. That&#039;s it. That&#039;s the job. 
When you start thinking about all the other stuff you can&#039;t control you lose focus and you lose your ability to work efficiently. 
It&#039;s called being PRESENT right now.
That patient may not be able to change but there is one thing you can control and it&#039;s your own response. In my experience being frusterated and angry are great ways to build up illness and stress over the years! Think about it.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I always say to people who complain about things like this: What&#8217;s wrong in your life that you are so angry about this?<br />
To be so angry at a group of people would suggest to me that original poster really isn&#8217;t happy with his life or his choice of job.<br />
The thing is if there wasn&#8217;t illness in the world than this person wouldn&#8217;t have a job.  My suggestion would be that instead of focusing and getting all upset about things you can&#8217;t change (a persons personal behaviors and inability to change) or things that aren&#8217;t your job (thinking about where the funding comes from) I would focus on what is your job, which is dealing with the patient in the best way possible. That&#8217;s it. That&#8217;s the job.<br />
When you start thinking about all the other stuff you can&#8217;t control you lose focus and you lose your ability to work efficiently.<br />
It&#8217;s called being PRESENT right now.<br />
That patient may not be able to change but there is one thing you can control and it&#8217;s your own response. In my experience being frusterated and angry are great ways to build up illness and stress over the years! Think about it.</p>
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		<title>By: Ulumuri</title>
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		<dc:creator>Ulumuri</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 15 Jul 2009 20:23:49 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Oh yeah. Of course I can&#039;t know what I&#039;d do in that situation, but the likelihood I&#039;d say &quot;to hell with it, why go on living if it&#039;s like this?&quot; and drink as much water as I pleased is very high. Expecting people to go against their basic biological drives long-term doesn&#039;t really seem like a solution at all...</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Oh yeah. Of course I can&#8217;t know what I&#8217;d do in that situation, but the likelihood I&#8217;d say &#8220;to hell with it, why go on living if it&#8217;s like this?&#8221; and drink as much water as I pleased is very high. Expecting people to go against their basic biological drives long-term doesn&#8217;t really seem like a solution at all&#8230;</p>
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		<title>By: Ulumuri</title>
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		<dc:creator>Ulumuri</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 15 Jul 2009 20:14:38 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Good point. I guess not only are the patients&#039; experiences and, well, humanity being glossed over, but the health care providers&#039; too - but for the above sentiments to be seen as signs of burn-out and something needing to be addressed, they need to lose every shred of legitimacy in people&#039;s eyes.  From the number of people who liked it, it seems we&#039;re far from that.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Good point. I guess not only are the patients&#8217; experiences and, well, humanity being glossed over, but the health care providers&#8217; too &#8211; but for the above sentiments to be seen as signs of burn-out and something needing to be addressed, they need to lose every shred of legitimacy in people&#8217;s eyes.  From the number of people who liked it, it seems we&#8217;re far from that.</p>
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