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Feeling safe around food again.
When you haven’t been fed enough, either as a kid, or as an adult for a significant period of time, the fear of going hungry kind of seeps into you. It starts to change your behaviour around food and eating. All of this is your body’s way of making sure it gets fed. This is…
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On not being fed enough as a child.
This is one of the painful truths of my job: discovering that sometimes children, especially fat kids, or kids whose caregivers suspect they will one day be fat, don’t get fed enough. Sometimes those kids grow up and become my clients. Sometimes considerable abuse and neglect in other domains comes along with being underfed as…
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Partner is a foodie, I’m a picky eater. Fights ensue.
Here’s another question from readers of Mealtime Hostage. My significant other is a foodie, and I’m a picky eater. I’m tired of hearing how terrible my diet is and being asked to try new foods. We just had a big fight about my eating, and I feel so disconnected and hurt. Listen up, foodies. I…
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We deserve to look like ourselves.
One day a while ago, my husband asked me, “Why do you have three-thousand pictures of yourself on your hard drive?” This was not an easy question to answer. A little background: From the time I was about nine, I was told almost daily by my peers that I was unforgivably ugly. During childhood, for…
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Stop watching paint dry.
When you make toast, you can put bread in the toaster and push the lever down. What you can’t do is turn bread into toast through the powers of your mind. And if you stand around watching the toaster, you’re wasting your time. Drying paint is the same way. What you can do: paint the…
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