{"id":4783,"date":"2012-06-28T08:28:27","date_gmt":"2012-06-28T13:28:27","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.fatnutritionist.com\/?p=4783"},"modified":"2018-10-15T08:35:25","modified_gmt":"2018-10-15T13:35:25","slug":"a-little-101-i-get-to-exist","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.fatnutritionist.com\/index.php\/a-little-101-i-get-to-exist\/","title":{"rendered":"A little 101 &#8211; I get to exist."},"content":{"rendered":"<p>It&#8217;s come to my attention that not everyone in the world takes for granted many of the things I&#8217;ve come to accept as truth about health and weight.<\/p>\n<p>I forget that sometimes. And when I am reminded, it is not always in the kindest terms. Usually, it&#8217;s in terms like, &#8220;But your body is not okay because it&#8217;s fat and I find that gross! I mean,<em> unhealthy<\/em>!&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Comments like these question my right to bodily autonomy, and even my right to exist.<\/p>\n<p>I find it stunning that in a country &#8212; the US, where many of my commenters live &#8212; that is supposed to be so staggeringly individualistic and freedom-oriented, and which, by the way, <em>does not have universal health care yet<\/em>, commenters will so readily lean on the notion of costs to the state as an excuse to strip away someone&#8217;s bodily autonomy. <\/p>\n<p>Trust me, this is <a href=http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Compulsory_sterilization>not<\/a> a <a href=http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Eugenics>road<\/a> that <a href=http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Fascism>has<\/a> led anywhere good in the past.<\/p>\n<p>Commenters also question my right to privacy, by asking me openly about confidential medical information &#8212; which might seem reasonable at first, but consider whether someone else in a similar position, but who is thin and promoting the popular view would be asked the same questions. <\/p>\n<p>Probably not, even though the questions would be just as relevant. Maybe we should start asking Dr. Oz about his blood glucose and cholesterol numbers. It&#8217;s only fair, right?<\/p>\n<p>No. Not only is it rude and presumptuous, it&#8217;s incredibly <a href=http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Ableism>ableist<\/a> &#8211; a term you&#8217;re probably not familiar with if you haven&#8217;t heard about this <a href=https:\/\/sizediversityandhealth.org\/content.asp?id=161>Health at Every Size<\/a> thing (and maybe even if you have.)<\/p>\n<p>In short: shaming people based on physical impairments or medical conditions is wrong. Treating someone as less of a person, or presuming that they are stupid, illogical, or not worthy of listening to because they have physical impairments or medical conditions is wrong. <\/p>\n<p>I have worked with health care professionals who had diabetes. Did it make them less capable? No. <\/p>\n<p>Was it any of my business? No. <\/p>\n<p>Was it the business of their patients, most of whom <em>were being treated for diabetes<\/em>? <\/p>\n<p>No. Not even then.<\/p>\n<p>Refusing to engage with the logic of someone&#8217;s argument because it might be easier to attack them for the way they look, or for the way their body functions, is not only wrong but transparently foolish. <\/p>\n<p>Engage with the argument, not with the arguer&#8217;s body.<\/p>\n<p>I used to be willing to talk about my metabolic health indicators as a way of stereotype-breaking, but I&#8217;m not going to do that here. It is a way of throwing &#8220;unhealthy&#8221; people under the bus. It implies that it&#8217;s okay to be fat <em>only<\/em> if you meet X criteria.<\/p>\n<p>You know what? No. <\/p>\n<p><center><strong><em>It is okay to be fat, full stop.<\/em><\/strong><\/center><\/p>\n<p>It is okay to be fat, because fat people already exist. <\/p>\n<p>Fat people have existed for <a href=http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Venus_figurines>a very, very long time<\/a>. <\/p>\n<p>Even if all of us tried, <a href=http:\/\/www.nutritionj.com\/content\/pdf\/1475-2891-10-9.pdf>not all of us would become permanently thin<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Fat people exist. We have existed. We will continue to exist. So to say that <em>it&#8217;s not acceptable to be fat<\/em> <a href=http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Bigotry>is<\/a> to deny our right to exist.<\/p>\n<p>Weight is not a behaviour; it is a physical trait. You don&#8217;t get to decide that people with certain physical traits don&#8217;t get to exist, no matter how distasteful you may find them. <\/p>\n<p>And despite popular belief, you cannot presume to know a person&#8217;s behaviour based solely on their weight.<\/p>\n<p>If you are fat and you don&#8217;t want to be, that&#8217;s fine with me. Do your thing &#8212; I&#8217;m not going to stop you. <\/p>\n<p>But you do not get a say in my right to exist as I am, or to treat my body the way I think is best. <\/p>\n<p>I am fat and I do not participate in intentional weight loss for various reasons, both personal and professional, <em>and I still get to exist.<\/em> The fact of my existence makes it okay, because whether or not you like me, or agree with me, or find me gross to look at, or &#8220;worry about my health,&#8221; I still get to have human rights. I don&#8217;t need you to find me appealing, or to agree with me, in order to have civil rights.<\/p>\n<p>I still have the right not to be subject to appearance-based discrimination. I still have the right to exist. <\/p>\n<p>My fatness is not an attack on anyone. And those of you who want to complain about how many &#8220;health care dollars!!!&#8221; it costs to help fellow citizens fallen ill need to re-examine your priorities. Nobody wakes up and says, &#8220;You know what? I just want to get really, really sick and use up lots of health care dollars!!!&#8221; <\/p>\n<p>Thin people get sick too. What if I refused to fund medical care of thin people because they were thin? Because I assumed they all had eating disorders, or smoked cigarettes, or were heroin addicts? <\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;d be a complete asshole, that&#8217;s what. Because you can&#8217;t assume behaviours based on weight.<\/p>\n<p>Also &#8211; I am <em>happy<\/em> that some of my tax dollars go to help people with eating disorders and people who develop addiction-related illnesses. I&#8217;m <em>not<\/em> glad those people got sick in the first place, no, and I wish they hadn&#8217;t &#8212; but I can&#8217;t possibly wish it more than they do.<\/p>\n<p>How much do you value Health Care Dollars &#8482; above the most intimate, basic forms of bodily autonomy? Above <em>the right to eat and move<\/em> in the way you want? Above the right to exist in the body that is naturally yours?<\/p>\n<p>Your money doesn&#8217;t give you any rights over my body. Since I don&#8217;t live in the US &#8212; and even if I did, I would be denied the privilege of paying for my own private health insurance based on my weight* &#8212; you can stop worrying about it anyhow.<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t be such a willing little proto-fascist, playing games of who gets to exist and who doesn&#8217;t, based on weird appearance-based prejudices &#8212; you might end up <a href=http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Ugly_law>on the wrong side<\/a> of someone&#8217;s aesthetic preferences one day and find your own right to exist called into serious question.<\/p>\n<p>Because fat or thin, you get to exist, too.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.fatnutritionist.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/break50.jpg\" alt=\"\" title=\"break50\" width=\"300\" height=\"18\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-620\" \/><\/p>\n<p><em>*Edited to Add: lol Affordable Health Care Act was upheld by the US Supreme Court minutes after I published this.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It&#8217;s come to my attention that not everyone in the world takes for granted many of the things I&#8217;ve come to accept as truth about health and weight. 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